I am commonly mistaken to be quite an extrovert. In reality, I’m far from being the life of the party, frankly, you’d be lucky to even find me AT a party. But nevertheless, with all my activism and insistence to voice my opinion, it has been decided that I am an extrovert, mainly by people who barely spend more than a few hours with me.
In reality, people exhaust me. I don’t like prolonged contact with people without a time-out. It’s not that I don’t appreciate their company…I just like it in very small doses.
And that’s why Christmas ends up getting to me. It’s the day where family expect to spend a lot of time with one-another, without breaks. Because breaks mean that you’re not having fun.
So for a few hours I can fake a smile, maybe nod and try to make small talk (another thing I despise), but after 3, 4…5…6 hours… damn it’s time for this to end. But the thing is, leaving at this point could be considered rude and insensitive to your guests who may still be enjoying themselves.
So introverts such as myself end up stuck in these situations, which personally really ruin the Christmas period. For me it’s even worse because my parents are huge extroverts, so being around them becomes even more exhausting, particularly because they cannot understand my quietness.
So if you’re an introvert, know that you’re not alone in this period. And if you’re someone who has introverted family members or friends, understand and give them the space to have their time-out moments. After these moments we can be energised more to continue socialising.